행복 방정식 - 15가지

우리는 어떻게 행복해지나요? 성공하면 행복한가요? 

돈과 안락, 여유, 신뢰, 지위, 든든한 지인이나 친구, 자식이 잘되면 행복한가요? 그런 것들이 그럴듯하게 보이기는 한데요 상류층의 소수가 그런 것인데요 그들이 행복하다는 말을 들은 적이 없습니다. 돈있는 사람들은 대개 그렇게 말하지요, 돈 이다 다가 아니라고요. 돈으로 행복이나 건강을 살수가 없다고요..

아래에는 재밋는 행복 방정식을 푸는데요. 15가지 비결이 있다네요. 

1. 자신이 늘 올바라야 한다는 관념을 놓아버려라. 

2.주변 사람이나, 상황이나 일들을 파악하고 지시한다는 통제관념을 버려라. 

3.남에게 책임을 묻고 비난하길 버려라. 제 자신의 일로 여기고 스스로의 책임으로 가라. 

4.자신을 자책하거나 억누르는 열등의식에서 벗어나라. 

5.자기를 이념이나 신념에 묶지말라. 그것이 스스로를 제한하게도말라. 

6.결코 불평의 마음을 허용치 말라. 불편하고 실망하는 마음은 결국 자신도 불신하고 주변도 불신하는 마음이 된다.

그러나 이런 성품이 되려면 평범한 삶에서는 어려울 것 같습니다. 영혼의 길을 간다면 가능하지요. 진실을 바라본다면 또 사랑의 삶을 간다면 가능도 할 것 같고요,

- 피터김의 체험나누기

 

아래는 원문입니다.

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

admin | March 30, 2012

Purpose Fairy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? [Ron: OK But sometimes it is a matter of charity to state the truth as you perceive it. Relationships and Community depends on direct and honest communication].

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all. [Ron: This sounds New Agey. The words "need to criticise things" are subjective and perjorative. The suggestion that we should NOT criticise 'things, events or people that are different than you' is a bit sweeping don'tcha think? What if the person wanting to be loved like you ... just happens to be slaughtering your family or your neighbours; or enslaving them, or both, etc. Criticising that behaviour is a "NO, NO" is it? Just askin...].

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it. [Ron: Surely acceptance of "change" depends on the change? Why should I accept my government making war on nations on the other side of the world that I and my nation have no quarrel with? You get my drift...?].

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only fear we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt [Ron: Well he would know... Clearly he wasn't afraid to let (encourage?) the Japanese bomb Pearl Harbour and all the rest...].

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now [Nope! Not even close! THAT is the LIE that the Adversary has foisted on humanity for millenia] – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path. [Ron: True!].

ha Adversary has sown througout hstory.

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